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May 11, 2015


Jackie D

Hey, I always read too! ;)

I think it's healthy to have boundaries and not share everything on social media. I used to be much more open online but learned that doesn't work for me, for many reasons.

I think it's helpful to give up any illusion of control over others' well-being. We can be an influence, surely, if they are receptive to that. I don't think there's a shortcut to being connected in a meaningful way.

I'm reminding of a favorite saying: "When someone is not ready to be helped, you cannot say the right thing. When they are ready to be helped, you cannot say the wrong thing."

Ultimately, it's out of our hands. We are powerless over people, places, and things. Good reminder to get humble about this. Often I am thinking of helping others as a way of neglecting taking care of myself. But that's just me. :)


How did you know I would read this post?

Truly a heartbreaking story. It really seems like her family and friends did everything they could, short of staging an active intervention...and how often does that happen for an academically successful D1 athlete?

For me, the social media element of the story boils down to this: Social media is a personal media platform. It is not a substitute for authentic relationships and personal contact, nor is it necessarily an accurate gauge of someone's life.

While I enjoy reading about and seeing images and videos of my friends, there's a reason I still try to call people from time to time.

When it comes to our children, social media is particularly suspect; spend time with your kids. That is the only thing you can do. The terrifying thing is that at some point, they go off to college, and you have to let them go. There is no way to guarantee that things will turn out all right for them. They probably will, but that's not under your complete control.

Tim Taylor

OMG Jackie you're totally right I'm so sorry I forgot you are definitely one of my long long time ardent devoteees.

You are both right that I have no control. I think what was so stinging was the gap between reality and portrayed.

I completely get that's like social media 101 it just didn't hit me like a thunderbolt of basic truth.

I forget that the second word of social media is media....

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