I was sitting on the bus listening to an audiobook about how to live in the present moment this morning. A guy got in, who I’ve seen before. He wears a fedora hat and fingerless gloves (judgment already arising…) and seems to act fairly brusquely (judgment arisen) when he rides the bus.
The bus is pretty packed and he has to stand…next to me and he turns and whacks me with his bag (ok he actually probably BARELY brushed me…)
I spend 2 seconds in a self-righteous fueled anger story about how he’s a jerk, he doesn’t care what he’s doing, confirming my story about him, etc. as I am still listening to how to be “in the moment”.
He turned around to me and gave me a gigantic smile and apologized, completely disarming me.
The person sitting next to me got up and fedora hat, no finger glove guy sat next to me.
I tapped him on the shoulder and told him the story of what I was thinking and the impact his smile and apology had. We had a big laugh about it and told me he works on exactly these kinds of issues personally and professionally.
He told me that like me, he struggles with this. We figured out in short order that on so many levels we were the same.
I put my headphones back on and after a minute took them off and put out my hand and said:
“My name is Tim, what’s yours?”
He said, “My name is Tim”.