At dinner the other night, Zoe and I were talking about my first girl I considered my "real" girlfriend (if you're reading this Robin Kavadas, it was you!!). She's getting to that age where she does think about boys and I try to be as casual as possible, letting her know that these feelings she's having about boys are normal.
As we were talking she just let out "You know how girls want to marry men like their dads. Well I want someone who can make me laugh like you make me laugh Dad." My heart melted quicker than that dude's face melted off in Raiders of the Lost Ark (OLD SCHOOL!!!). I have lots of endearing qualities that make me me, but the one I seem to treasure most and am most grateful for is that I can make you laugh and know how to laugh myself.
Laughter, to me is one of the main times in my life when I'm TOTALLY present. And when we share laughter, it's infectious and often has its own crescendos which makes it even more cool.
Its gotten me out of a TON of really dark situations, has been an awesome connector to other people and, of course, has made for more than a few moments that were a bit "awks" as my daughter and her friends say. Life's hard and downright shitty sometimes, but I'll be damned if I'm going to take it to seriously.
I went to my high school reunion a few weeks ago and when someone asked me what has changed about me since then, I told them that I was more acutely aware of what hadn't changed. I loved to laugh and make people laugh then and still do today.
But to have that wonderful quality reflected back from my daughter as something she really wants in someone she, you know, like, sorta, kinda like "likes" makes it all the more sweeter.