Recently I've turned attention in my life from asking for help for my benefit to asking for help for someone else's benefit. It's a subtle, but relieving thing.
Basically, I find when I ask for help to improve MY life and things for ME I increase the odds of discombobulation, disappointment and disenchantment (...sorry I think I just temporarily channeled Jackie Chiles from Seinfeld...). Really I'm actively looking for answers in my life to increase happiness on my own terms. And if I've learned anything time and again it's that my life is coming at me on its terms, not mine.
As such, when I ask for help in order to better help you (nobody specifically) I feel a certain amount of peace. It's rewarding to consider someone other than myself. And when I do get help and then turn around and help someone else, things seem to slow down. I notice little examples of synchronicity springing up in my life and things just become, more enjoyable I guess.
I've heard it hundreds of times and still have to rely on moments of realization. I realize that the universe will give me exactly what i give out. And when I help someone else, ironically that's exactly what I get back which is what I really wanted in the first place!
But in this case, I'm not helping you with the specific intention of getting what i want. I do it because it's what feels right for me. And that's a pretty cool way to live life I've found.