I was in a meeting with a successful executive talking about some work that I'm going to do for him. As we were talking every once in a while he would bust out with a healthy dose of obscenities.
Now, I have cursed in the past and do so occassionally now (very rarely). I did with him today what I do with everyone I meet that swears a lot, I mentioned it.
I generally say something like "I want you to know that I'm not judging this and if you keep doing it after I say it, I will not cringe or judge you then. I would normally say that you swear like a sailor, but I know that I have never met a sailor who swears as much as you do."
There is always silence. I go on "Look, to me swearing is a verbal opportunity cost. I find you interesting (only if I do will I say that by the way) and I would like to learn as much as possible. I can tell it will be difficult if you accentuate with swear words." (I mean really how many decibel gradients can one use to signify seriousness or how many derivations of these words are there?)
Often I get..."Well I don't swear around priests, kids, older folks...etc." I ask why and they often say "Out of respect, or to maintain their innocence or because I care about them" Which always elicits the response from me:
"If you don't swear in front of certain people out of respect or whatever, why do you swear in front of yourself?"
He took it very well, and I have yet to encounter someone who morphs into Dennis Hopper from Blue Velvet or anything. Some stop swearing some don't. I'm indifferent now that I've spoken my peace.